If you are considering becoming a surrogate mother, you may have lots of questions you wish to ask (and get answered). The process can be very rewarding for all those involved. However, there may be times when you feel alone, or you feel confused. Looking at everything that surrounds becoming a surrogate mother, and then making your own decision, is crucial for all involved.
Why Become a Surrogate?
You may have been thinking about being a surrogate for a while. Helping couples or single people have a baby can be one of the greatest gifts you give to someone else. Being pregnant is a fantastic experience, but becoming a surrogate is about more than just being pregnant. It is about nurturing the life of a baby while it is in your womb, and it is about bringing hope and joy to those who are struggling to carry their own child/children. Naturally, you will feel a whole bunch of emotions when you look at surrogacy, and learning to open up and share your thoughts, feelings, and emotions is essential. Having a reason and a purpose that drives your decision is positive.
Finding Your Match/Using an Agency
There are lots of ways that you can become a surrogate, but one of the safest ways is to use an agency. An agency will vet all parties involved, and they will provide you with guidance and reassurance at points when you need it the most. Getting a match is important, and this can be handled by highly experienced and trained counsellors, support workers, and other agency staff. When you are looking for an agency, you need to reach out to those that are highly recommended. Join surrogacy forums, and even look at social media groups. Talk to those who have experienced surrogacy before. Also, reach out to those that are focused on finding a suitable match, and not just on the monetary/fiscal side of things. Agencies that have their financial interests at the core of everything they do are best avoided. Remember that the process of surrogacy can be testing and draining, and you need the support of a good agency behind you. Without this support, you may struggle to balance your emotions, and this is not positive for you. Don’t be afraid to ask an agency lots of questions, and don’t be afraid to reach out to several agencies, until you find the right fit for you.
Surrogate Compensation and Care
Having a baby and carrying a baby can have an impact on your life, your career, and your work. It can also have an impact on your health and well-being. When you are considering becoming a surrogate, you may have questions surrounding surrogate compensation and surrounding other topics, such as healthcare. Asking these important questions as soon as possible will help you decide if surrogacy is the best option for you. Even though figures for compensation may vary, you will still be able to roughly see what costs are involved for all those involved. Asking questions to also establish what healthcare and doctor’s appointments you will be compensated for is important. Doing this at the beginning of the process will mean there is less room for confusion later down the line.
Testing and Requirements
At the start of your surrogacy journey, there will be testing and requirements that you will have to meet and surpass. Testing and requirements are in place to keep everyone safe and happy. If testing or requirements are not spoken about at an agency’s initial appointment, then move your search on. Testing may involve you going to the doctor for a routine checkup and testing for diseases, including STDs. It may also involve screening done to test for any generic or heredity issues you may be unknowingly carrying. Even though you will not be carrying the baby you have made, there are some conditions which can impact how a baby grows and develops. Testing can be draining on you physically and emotionally, and you need the support of a good agency at this point. You could also benefit from the support of a friend or family member. In addition to routine testing, you will also have to ensure you meet the minimum requirements as set out by the agency you choose to use. These minimum requirements may stipulate criteria, such as height, weight, and body mass index. Establishing what an agency’s minimum requirements are will help you prepare both physically and mentally for the next stage of the journey.